Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
I’m a little late with my greetings but I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and I wish you happiness in 2010! Once again, despite all my planning, Christmas kicked my butt! Christmas day was wonderful. We enjoyed a lovely Christmas dinner with our two sons and opened piles and piles of presents. It was the following day when things got difficult. We hosted our family Christmas party in the middle of a snowstorm. We had about 30 people. Almost everyone arrived at the same time. They were considerate enough to take off their shoes when they came in but what do you do with 30 pairs of wet shoes? Whatever happened to being fashionably late? And, why do people think they can bring extra guests without asking? Well, we had plenty of food and drink and everyone had a good time. Some people were really difficult though. My husband’s cousin had just broken up with her boyfriend that morning and she extremely bitchy to everyone. My brother-in-law got really drunk and started making fun of everyone including my husband, my “might be gay” nephew, and my sick cousin who incidentally infected us all with her cold virus. The kids ran loose all over the house and one little boy ran into something and we thought he might have broken his leg but it turned out to just be bruised. My sister-in-law was on a mission to drink every beer in the house. At 10:33, it was looking like they were all going to stay the night when we luckily ran out of beer! They left quickly after that! We cleaned up for hours.
My mother-in-law visited us for the next three days. She was incredibly crabby, argumentative, critical, and militant. She smoked in the bathroom and insisted that she was not smoking. We don’t like smoking in our house but don’t care if guests smoke outside or in the garage. We were really aggravated with her and couldn’t enjoy our visit. We were so happy when she went on to visit one of her other sons.
As soon as she left my husband got sick with the fever, chills, cough, and headache thing that is going around. One week later and now I have it. I feel terrible. I am sitting here thinking – how can I make my Christmas be better next year? My husband wants to go to Las Vegas for the week of Christmas and New Years. That sounds wonderful to me but I will miss my children. I think that maybe we need to pick and choose and decide what we really want to do instead of doing what we think we should do to please our families. No, we will not host the family party. No, I will not bake 12 kinds of cookies and make certain dishes for people who want them. If my husband wants to do something and I don’t – he can do it by himself and vice versa. In fact, "no" will be my favorite word this year. No, No, No, I am going to use it every day! In the words of Rick Springfield: “You can't please everyone so you’ve got to please yourself".